I no longer chase......

There’s a difference between pursuing something and chasing it. Pursuit is mutual. It’s two people moving toward each other with equal effort. Chasing is one-sided; it’s you running after someone or something that’s walking away.

I used to think that if someone started to drift, it was my job to close the gap. I’d call first, text first, plan the meet-ups, carry the conversation, and make excuses for why they weren’t doing the same. The truth is, my reactions and pulling were driven by fear - fear of losing people, fear of being forgotten, and fear that maybe I wasn’t worth staying for unless I overcompensated.

The cost of chasing is subtle but expensive. You lose time, you lose peace, and eventually, you lose yourself. You start believing that the effort you put in determines your worth, when in reality, the right people will show you. You matter without you having to constantly prove it.

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